3 Signs You’re Hung Up On Looks
Men are visual creatures and that's okay! It is perfectly fine to have a piece of eye candy on your arm. Not only does it bring you a sense of personal delight, but it may bring forth many other perks as well. In the dating world, being focused on looks can be a major flaw. That's not to say that you should be the real life version of Shallow Hal, but being a little too consumed in physical appearances has gotten countless men more than they may have bargained for. If you've found yourself in this predicament, here are 3 Signs You're Hung Up On Looks. Hopefully you can be aware of these flaws and save yourself a lot of time. Knowing is half the battle! via Match
#1 You are prone to downplaying your date’s non-physical flaws.
Once, over dinner, I smiled and nodded as my date made a flat-out elitist comment, just because I thought she was cute (this is not a good sign). If you find yourself making excuses for your sweetie every time he or she speaks — “Oh, Jerry’s not much of an intellectual,” “Oh, that’s just Helen’s weird sense of humor” — you might be better off embracing your shallowness and trading your sweetie in for a department-store mannequin. But seriously, if you’re way over-valuing looks to the extent that you’re glossing over flaws… chances are, you haven’t met your match yet.
#2 You zero in on the tiniest of “defects” to deem someone unworthy to date.
I call this one the “Seinfeld Effect,” though it’s since turned up in other sitcoms as well. If you hear yourself delivering these erstwhile punch lines, try to stop and think about what’s really important in life: “She’s about five pounds too heavy,” “His nostrils are way too big,” “I’d ask her out on a second date if only she’d lose those glasses.” A real relationship doesn’t revolve around such details; you’re being too superficial and not focusing on what really makes a couple click.
#3 You are, consciously or subconsciously, dating more attractive people to boost your own low self-esteem.
“Do you need a good-looking date to make you feel better?” asks Debbie Mandel, author of Turn on Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul. “If you feel attractive and empowered, you’ll look for someone who is as positive as you are. That means someone with a sense of humor, who is a good listener, a caring individual — basically someone who knows what he or she brings to the table.” In other words, if you won’t settle for anything less than a piece of arm candy, that says a lot more about you than it does about your date. You’re with that super-attractive person in the hopes that he or she casts a “halo effect” of glamour on you… when the real issue is your own sense of self-worth.
Is this you? Now find out how to go from the shallow to the deep end of the dating pool here.